Here is a list of 15 things which, if you
give up on them, will make your life a lot
easier and much, much happier. We hold
on to so many things that cause us a
great deal of pain, stress and suffering –
and instead of letting them all go,
instead of allowing ourselves to be stress
free and happy – we cling on to them.
Not anymore. Starting today we will give
up on all those things that no longer
serve us, and we will embrace change.
Ready? Here we go:
1. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO ALWAYS BE RIGHT
There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being
wrong – wanting to always be right – even at
the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great
deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s
just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to
jump into a fight over who is right and who is
wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right,
or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer.
What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?
2. GIVE UP YOUR NEED FOR CONTROL
Be willing to give up your need to always control everything
that happens to you and around you –
situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved
ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on
the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and
everyone to be just as they are and you will see
how much better will that make you feel.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by
those who let it go. But when you try and
try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu
3. GIVE UP ON BLAME
Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or
don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel.
Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility
for your life.
4. GIVE UP YOUR SELF-DEFEATING SELF-TALK
Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of
their negative, polluted and repetitive
self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your
mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative
and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used
wrongly, however, it becomes very
destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. GIVE UP YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS
about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or
impossible. From now on, you are no longer
going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in
the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea
that holds the mind” Elly Roselle
6. GIVE UP COMPLAINING
Give up your constant need to complain about those many,
many, maaany things – people, situations,
events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can
make you unhappy, no situation can
make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not
the situation that triggers those feelings in you,
but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the
power of positive thinking.
7. GIVE UP THE LUXURY OF CRITICISM
Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that
are different than you. We are all different,
yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all
want to love and be loved and we all want to be
understood. We all want something, and something is wished
by us all.
8. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO IMPRESS OTHERS
Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to
make others like you. It doesn’t work this
way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that
you’re not, the moment you take off all
your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you,
you will find people will be drawn to
you, effortlessly.
9. GIVE UP YOUR RESISTANCE TO CHANGE
Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B.
Change will help you make improvements in
your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow
your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you
where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell
10. GIVE UP LABELS
Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t
understand as being weird or different and
try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work
when open. “The highest form of ignorance is
when you reject something you don’t know anything about.”
Wayne Dyer
11. GIVE UP ON YOUR FEARS
Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it.
It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the
outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin
D. Roosevelt
12. GIVE UP YOUR EXCUSES
Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer
need them. A lot of times we limit
ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of
growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying
to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time
are not even real.
13. GIVE UP THE PAST
I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so
much better than the present and the future
looks so frightening, but you have to take into
consideration the fact that the present moment is all you
have and all you will ever have. The past you are now
longing for – the past that you are now dreaming
about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop
deluding yourself. Be present in everything you
do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a
destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare
yourself, but always be present in the now.
14. GIVE UP ATTACHMENT
This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp
and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it
still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better
and better at with time and practice. The
moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that
doesn’t mean you give up your love for them –
because love and attachment have nothing to do with one
another, attachment comes from a place of
fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self
less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and
because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you
become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and
so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to
understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.
15. GIVE UP LIVING YOUR LIFE TO OTHER PEOPLE’S EXPECTATIONS
Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to
live. They live their lives according to what
others think is best for them, they live their lives according
to what their parents think is best for them,
to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers,
their government and the media think is best for
them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling.
They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with
living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose
control over their lives. They forget what makes
them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually
they forget about themselves. You have
one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it,
and especially don’t let other people’s opinions
distract you from your path.
